I wished upon a star and you came true...

So I think in matters of the heart, most people start out hoping for that person who is absolutely special. I mean special to them right off the bat, "sent from heaven" especially for them, that person that was created for the sole purpose of being their other half. I guess what I'm trying to say is whether we like it or not, most of us, including me start out with some variation or version of the idea that out there somewhere exists for us, dare I say it? A "Soul Mate”. Who can blame us though? Cinderella, Snow White…these were the pioneers of this whole Prince Charming/Mr. Right business.

So what happens? For me, I find that as the years go by and..."Life happens", I'm not so disillusioned anymore by this idea of a cosmic/mystical connection that can only be shared with this one person made just for me. These days, I'm unlearning everything Cinderella and Snow White taught me, and subscribing more to lessons learned from my mother, and aunties and friends, of course, men and life in general. I think, connections, companionship and love in general is what I make it. i.e. me and whoever else is involved. I think after experiencing the ooohs and aaaahs of the "I wished on a star and you came true” feeling (how cheesy!), and it didn't work out, I'm resigned to feeling like, there’s might be nothing cosmic or supernatural about our connections. It’s all on us, how we treat each other and the decisions we make.

Not to exclude romance et al…but I think it boils right down to making the right decisions, doing the right thing even when it’s hard, love on each other as much as possible and finally and most importantly PRAY. PRAY hard that the Lord God Almighty blesses the union with lotsa grace and mercy.



As a side note: Of course there is the discourse between ladies and gents in this area. Girls grew up on Cinderella, boys grew up on spider man…daaah