Here's to Hoping

So the other day, a friend asked me, what do you want in a guy, what are the qualities you look for? I wasn’t stumped by the question coz it’s something I have given thought to especially after having just walked away from a long term relationship that wasn't working out. I smugly responded, “He has to be funny, love God and treat me as God would”. For some reason though, I haven’t been able to get over my response coz deep down I know I wasn’t being honest. Not entirely anyway. Why?

Well I guess the simple answer is the fear that if I come face to face with the things I want, I would be setting myself up for the potential disappoint that would ensue in future years if I don't get what I want. People say, “don’t be too picky”, “you never know what God has in store”, “keep an open mind”. So here I am, not wanting to have a list coz I’m scared it might not come true. But you know what? That’s just not me! I’m not the type to shy away from life; I'm not scared of living; not scared of wishing...I know exactly what I want and I would be extremely, out of my skin, cloud 9, ecstatically happy if I got what I wanted…things that make me smile and blush like I just found a love letter from my secret crush.

So if we’re being honest…here’s what I would like:

• I would like him to have the fear of God in his heart

• I would like him to be very funny

• I hope he doesn’t say “I told you so” unless we’re BOTH laughing

• I would like him to be a thinker…

• I’d like him to be hard working and ambitious

• This is a little bit of a paradox so I’ll break it down

o I would like him to see how small he is (I guess humble)
o I’d also like him to see how big he is (feel the obligation to make a difference in the world around him)
o I would like him to see how big the world is

• I’d like some swag…Not the type they sell at Gucci though :)

• I’d like him to be educated to the full extent of that word

• …it’s a little difficult to get up to 10 but I want to…10 things I’ll love about him. Lol! I’m such a cheese ball.

• He HAS to have a faithful heart…not just be faithful but have a faithful heart

• He has to be able to hold his own

o Be decisive and Stand by his decisions
o Brave enough to change his mind when he is wrong

• Know when and how to apologize

o Know what he did wrong and why it’s wrong
o Give an honest explanation
o An act of contrition if appropriate
o And an assurance that he’ll do his best to make the future better.